Carrots, Eggs, and Coffee

(Received from a friend)

A carrot, an egg, and a cup of coffee…You will never look at a cup of coffee the same way again!

A young woman went to her mother and told her about her life and how things were so hard for her. She did not know how she was going to make it and wanted to give up She was tired of fighting and struggling. It seemed as one problem was solved, a new one arose.

Her mother took her to the kitchen. She filled three pots with water and placed each on a high fire. Soon the pots came to boil. In the first she placed carrots, in the second she placed eggs, and in the last she placed ground coffee beans. She let them sit and boil; without saying a word.

In about twenty minutes she turned off the burners. She fished the carrots out and placed them in a bowl. She pulled the eggs out and placed them in a bowl.

Then she ladled the coffee out and placed it in a bowl. Turning to her daughter, she asked, “Tell me what you see.”

“Carrots, eggs, and coffee,” she replied.

Her mother brought her closer and asked her to feel the carrots. She did and noted that they were soft. The mother then asked the daughter to take an egg and break it. After pulling off the shell, she observed the hard-boiled egg.

Finally, the mother asked the daughter to sip the coffee. The daughter smiled, as she tasted its rich aroma the daughter then asked, “What does it mean, mother?”

Her mother explained that each of these objects had faced the same adversity: boiling water. Each reacted differently. The carrot went in strong, hard, and unrelenting. However, after being subjected to the boiling water, it softened and became weak. The egg had been fragile. Its thin outer shell had protected its liquid interior, but after sitting through the boiling water, its insides became hardened. The ground coffee beans were unique, however. After they were in the boiling water, they had changed the water.

“Which are you?” she asked her daughter. “When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond? Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean?

Think of this:Which am I? Am I the carrot that seems strong, but with pain and adversity do I wilt and become soft and lose my strength?

Am I the eggthat starts with a malleable heart, but changes with the heat? Did I have a fluid spirit, but after a death, a breakup, a financial hardship or some other trial, have I become hardened and stiff? Does my shell look the same, but on the inside am I bitter and tough with a stiff spirit and hardened heart?

Or am I like the coffee bean? The bean actually changes the hot water, the very circumstance that brings the pain. When the water gets hot, it releases the fragrance and flavor. If you are like the bean, when things are at their worst, you get better and change the situation around you. When the hour is the darkest and trials are their greatest, do you elevate yourself to another level? How do you handle adversity? Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean?

May you have enough happiness to make you sweet, enough trials to make you strong, enough sorrow to keep you human and enough hope to make you happy.

The happiest of people don’t necessarily have the best of everything; they just make the best of everything that comes along their way. The brightest future will always be based on a forgotten past; you can’t go forward in life until you let go of your past failures and heartaches.

When you were born, you were crying and everyone around you was smiling.

Live your life so at the end, you’re the one who is smiling and everyone around you is crying.

Be a COFFEE!!!!!! !!

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The Laws of Money.

Laws of Money!

I have just completed reading a book titled ‘The Richest Man in Babylon’ by George S Clason. Having read it a couple of times in the past, there is something that keeps drawing me back to this book again and again; its simplicity, practicality, the lovely stories and although it was set in the ancient Babylonian times, its application today couldn’t be more appropriate. Laws of money never change nor the cures for lean purses!

Money is one of the most sought after resources today and to a large extent dictates the quality of life of its owner. While some people just want enough to cater for their basic human needs, some want as much as they could lay their hands on. While some are ready to work hard to acquire it, some will do whatever is necessary to become rich, crushing whoever stands in their ways.

As important as money is, only a few have mastered the art of acquiring it and only fewer have learnt the secret of keeping it while it constantly seeps through the hands of most bearers. While it remains elusive to most of us, however, some due to chance or inheritance have found themselves custodians of this most wanted commodity, but due to lack of appropriate knowledge, the money has grown wings and gone with the winds.

So, some of the questions that have been reverberating through the ages and which most of us are still slaving away to find the answers to are: how do we master the art of acquiring and keeping money? Are there any sciences or arts to it?

While some people have stood out in history to be masters of money, most people have ended up being enslaved by its abundance or the lack of it. So, what set these people apart? Is it knowledge or lady luck or just fate? In my opinion, I think it’s knowledge.

We all crave for money at different levels, for different purposes and driven by different desires. For whatever reasons and in whatever quantities, money has become part of our daily lives and learning to efficiently manage it could significantly increase the quality of our lives.

Some of the things I learnt from the book (The Richest Man in Babylon) which could make us more disciplined or more successful with the handling of money are:

  •    A part of what you earn is yours to keep. In order to start building a better financial future for yourselves, start by utilizing your established source of wealth (income). “For each ten coins you put in, to spend but nine. Thy purse will start to fatten at once and its increasing weight will feel good in thy hand and bring satisfaction to thy soul”. Put at least a tenth of your income aside before you start paying for all your expenses (rents/mortgage, groceries, clothes ….etc). Saving at least a tenth of your income regularly is a sure way to building wealth.
  •   Control your expenditures. Fundamental human ‘needs’ are few, finite and classifiable, as distinct from the conventional notion of ‘wants’ that are infinite and insatiable. And the resources to satisfy these wants are limited, hence the need to  Learn how to live on less than you earn and do not spend more than nine-tenths of your income. Our ‘necessary expenses’ will always grow to equal our incomes unless we protest to the contrary. All men are burdened with more desires than they can gratify. Therefore, since it’s impossible to gratify all our desires with all our earnings. Let thy motto be one hundred per cent of appreciated value demanded for each coin spent. “Budget thy expenses that thou mayest have coins to pay for thy necessities, to pay for thy enjoyments and to gratify thy worthwhile desires without spending more than nine-tenths of thy earnings” What you do with what you earn is more important than what  you earn. “He that spends more than he earns is sowing the winds of needless self-indulgence from which he is sure to reap the whirlwinds of trouble and humiliation”
  • Make your gold mutiply. Put your savings to labour and make it multiply; invest your savings. “Gold in a purse is gratifying to own and satisfies a miserly soul but earns nothing.” One of the cures to a lean purse is ” ….to put each coin to labouring that it may reproduce its kind even as the flocks of the field and help bring to thee income, a stream of wealth that shall “flow constantly into thy purse” A man’s wealth is not in the coins he carries in his purse but it is the income that he builds. A fat purse quickly empties if there be no golden stream to refill it.
  • Guard your treasure from loss. Study carefully the flow of business before making an investment. Do your due diligence before committing your money and seek advice from those who are competent through their own experience to give it so you could minimise your investment from risk of loss.
  • Increase your ability to earn. “Cultivate thy own powers, to study and become wiser, to become more skillful, to so act as to respect thyself”. Have a strong, but simple and definite desire to increase your earnings, for preceding accomplishment must be desire and pursuit is the proof of this desire.  Aspire to be the best at whatever you do! More interest in the work, more concentration on the tasks, more persistence in the efforts, and you are on the road to being the Subject Matter Expert in your field.

Adhering to these principles might not necessarily bring ‘millions’ your way, however, it will definitely usher in a big change to your lifestyles and give you an opportunity to optimally manage every ‘coin’ that comes into your ‘purse’ and multiply it. Wealth that comes quickly goes the same way. Wealth that stays to give enjoyment and satisfaction to its owner comes gradually, because it is a child born of knowledge and persistent purpose.

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The world is moving so fast,
and our plates are overflowing
with the things we feel we have to do.
But all we really need to do
is take a day and sit down
and think.

-Maya Angelou

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Baby Steps!

The weather was quite cold this morning! However, it was fresh and crispy, and jogging through the woods in my area reminded me why I fell in love with the area in the first place; the greens, the hills and the tranquillity.

One of my ‘new year resolutions’ was to pay more attention to my fitness and hopefully develop enough mental strength, to pray to Hercules to carve a six-pack out of my round belly and gift me with a Pectoralis Major to show off to my fans. However, this is February with a speed that beckons for a speed ticket, and I am still quite sluggish getting off the starting block.

But that changed this beautiful morning! I woke up about 6.15am and after few minutes of pep talk, I managed to drag myself out of the warmth and comfort of my bed, put on my jogging clothes, my running shoes and I finally hit the road!
Unfortunately, the weather wasn’t welcoming, but I was very excited to have won the battle today and to have finally started on the road to fitness and well being. And while jogging, I had the pleasure of clearing my head, my thoughts and my lungs, while the scenery was very therapeutic.

I am aware I’m not going to turn into Usain Bolt or become Mr Olympian (……and I don’t intend to be), my goal is to do the best I can to be physically and mentally fit, and hopefully in the process get rid of the beer belly, and to be able to run around on a five-a-side football pitch chasing the inflated rubber for 5 minutes without having to call the ambulance. Am I asking for too much?

This is just the beginning, but I have learnt that “One million miles starts with a Step or Two”. Every day comes with its own challenges but each baby step we take, gets us closer to our goals, and my intention is to keep at it and not to give up.

I did well today, but tomorrow is another day!

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Life is a journey!

Life is a journey!

It’s just gone past 4am……! Why am I awake this early? I wish I knew. Tried to go back to sleep, but none of my tested methods seems to be working. Rolling and turning …………. my mind begins to wonder, taking a delve into another journey (as is ‘his’ habit), and pondering about life …….

Wow, this is December! The year has nearly ended, It’s time to take stock.

Where am I? How did I get here? Where am I heading? I wish I could confidently and comfortably answer all these questions constantly raging my mind. However, one thing is certain ………. I am not where I was 4 years ago or 12 months ago! I have been on a journey. A journey I never knew I would embark on at this early stage of my life. It’s been more difficult and more lingering than I have anticipated, read about, or seen other people on a similar path, but I guess everybody is unique, with his own unique journey. However, it’s been very different! A mixture of tears and laughter, good memories and some very painful ones. Some lonely nights, and some days you have to escape from friends and loved ones to enjoy some peace and quietness. From the excitement of the freedom to travel around the world, to the sadness of the restraints of not been able to share the experience with ‘The one’.

Would I have it differently? Je ne sais pas …………….! If I have the power to change the past, would I? The truth is, I don’t! I have learnt to ‘forget those things that are behind, and press on forward……..’

I have also learnt that people come into our lives, some for a season, some for a reason and some for a lifetime. Whatever the reason or duration that you have the people in your lives for; look after them, cherish them, love them and let them know you do! Because life is a journey!

I can’t change the past. I am very grateful for the present. And I am sooooooo excited about the future! Life is what we make of it; “To learn from the past but not to hide from it, To face the future and not be afraid or intimidated by it, To embrace the present and not be limited by the perception of current possibilities”

As I continue on my journey, I pray for divine guidance in the choices that I make.”You are the choices you make”.

Life is a journey. A journey we don’t know how long it would take, where it would lead, how it would roll out, who or what to take with us, or when it would end. However, despite the uncertainties that plague this journey, one thing is certain – we are all on a journey.

So, I have learnt to make the most of it, be the best I can be, and be a blessing to the person next to me. And most importantly, choose to enjoy it!

Joseph Oluabey

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Quote of the day!

The challenge of finding out what you’re capable of doing
is a far greater motivator than comparing yourself to somebody else.

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After months of deliberating on blogging, I’ve finally put aside my procrastination, sorted out my blog and started typing! It’s a journey I am really looking forward to, an opportunity and a platform to express myself, be creative and share my thoughts and beliefs with whoever cares to read or listen.

I intend to post thoughts that will inspire, quotes that will encourage and pictures that will lighten up the hearts.

I hope you enjoy this journey with me!

Joseph Oluabey

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